Whew

I got the results from the biopsy and it was clean! No further treatment AND no more biopsies. And the mamogram was negative, so everything is ok.

Of course, I can't be happy with that. I have to cause drama SOMEPLACE. My ex-husband is coming to visit my daughter this weekend which is no big deal. But he wants to go into DC on Memorial Weekend and visit the Vietnam Memorial. Jen and Dan said they didn't want to go because of the traffic, etc. But Brad is insisting. He makes me mad when he's being selfish -- which is all the time.

1. It's a 3 hour drive to DC on a good day. That's 6 hours in a car seat for my grandson. And that's if they're lucky. I'm sure it will be longer on Memorial weekend.

2. They will be standing in long lines to look at a wall. A 4 year old will be bored and won't understand the idea of a Memorial. He will be bored and fussy.

3. It's a lot of walking in the sun and standing around in crowds and Jen is pregnant.

4. They don't want to go, Jen knows that Dan doesn't want to go. She feels caught in the middle which is stressful and doesn't need the stress ... she's pregnant.

I understand that he wants to go and he wants to share it with Jen, but he's being selfish. He asked and they said no thank you. It annoys me that he continues to put Jen in this position. She would gladly go with him another time ... just not Memorial weekend. He has no idea what DC is like on a holiday like this. He hasn't been in the area, except for short visits, for over 20 years!

Since I can't do anything about Brad, I attempted to fortify Jen. I sent a pretty harsh email telling her that her dad has always been babied and he's selfish and she needs to not carry on the tradition of catering. I wanted her to be able stand up for what she wants. But I think I overdid it. :-(

I really do think that it would help them have a more honest relationship with her dad and I have to think that's a good thing. But that's not for me to say anymore. She's not 8. She's a grown woman with a 4 year old and another on the way. So I should shut up. But she's still my little girl inside and it kills me to see her getting twisted in a knot. She doesn't deserve it. She's been nothing but a good daughter. But I have to shut up now. All I can do is hope that the visit goes well and she doesn't have to go into DC.

A busy weekend

It was a busy and pleasant weekend. The first order of business was to go to my daughter's house and help her with a big project that she's working on for her home business. She's making 42 table runners for someone's wedding. They are beautiful. The customer chose a lovely combination of pattern and color. You can see the project at

http://www.homesweetbyhand.com/blog

My mother-in-law (and friend), Jo, was there too. We were in charge of turning the table runners right side out and pressing them so that Jen could do the top stitching. We got them all done and left her with a stack to finish off this week. It felt good to help and it was a really pleasant day. It was like an old fashioned quilting bee where we talked about everything all day as we worked. It was really pleasant.

Then we went to dinner at one of our favorite restaurants in Ocean City -- Adolfo's. Great food. We just ate light, but yummmmm. Their garlic bread is the bomb. And we go so often that they've become friends, and it's always good to see them.

http://www.oc-adolfos.com/

Today was my normal chores and I went to a nearby woods and dug up a load of rocks to use as borders in a new flower bed I want to get done this spring. I hate to see the weekend end. Sunday nights are always difficult because I dread the beginning of the work week. I usually take an ambien on Sunday nights to help me sleep.

The cough is doing better. So much so that I think I'm going to try to start eliminating the inhaler. I'll do it gradually. But I think it's time to start the process and see how it goes.

I'm still sticking to my new eating plan. I hadn't lost any more weight for a while, but I knocked off another pound last week. As long as I'm not gaining. I guess I'm about where I'm going to be weight-wise since the weight loss has tapered off. And that's ok. I'm back into a lot of clothes that I wasn't able to wear and I'm feeling pretty good. I think that's pretty good for 58.

Happy Birthday Mom!

I went to visit my mom this weekend. I try to visit once a month and this month I timed the visit to coincide with mom's birthday weekend. It was really nice. Mom turned 84 and she doesn't like being 84, but I think she enjoyed her 84th birthday in spite of that. A couple of other sisters came over on Saturday too and we all brought a dish -- my brother-in-law made the cake. It was pretty perfect. It was a good visit.

Jen couldn't make it because she has a big order that she's working on. www.homesweetbyhand.com that's my girl! I love her stuff and apparently so does someone else. :-)

Of course, that was the first day of snacking/munching that I've had since the beginning of the year. What can I say ... mmmmmmm. And I was hungry today. It's amazing. I've been sticking to my new routine so well, but one day off the wagon and I'm back to my old cravings. Hopefully it will pass quickly. On the bright side, I didn't gain weight from it so I guess I didn't go too crazy. Back squarely on the wagon and hoping I have a way to go before my calorie intake = my output.

Today was a really rainy day, so Jay and I couldn't ride bikes after work. Tomorrow will be iffy, but after that, we should be able to ride the rest of the week. That's an activity that we enjoy doing together. For some reason, we chat more while riding than we do when we're doing other things, so it's really pleasant. And we both have very sedentary jobs, and we work out very differently, so having a physical activity that we both enjoy and share is really nice. We look forward to the nice weather.

I think I'll play a little Wii tennis before bed. :-)