Whew

I got the results from the biopsy and it was clean! No further treatment AND no more biopsies. And the mamogram was negative, so everything is ok.

Of course, I can't be happy with that. I have to cause drama SOMEPLACE. My ex-husband is coming to visit my daughter this weekend which is no big deal. But he wants to go into DC on Memorial Weekend and visit the Vietnam Memorial. Jen and Dan said they didn't want to go because of the traffic, etc. But Brad is insisting. He makes me mad when he's being selfish -- which is all the time.

1. It's a 3 hour drive to DC on a good day. That's 6 hours in a car seat for my grandson. And that's if they're lucky. I'm sure it will be longer on Memorial weekend.

2. They will be standing in long lines to look at a wall. A 4 year old will be bored and won't understand the idea of a Memorial. He will be bored and fussy.

3. It's a lot of walking in the sun and standing around in crowds and Jen is pregnant.

4. They don't want to go, Jen knows that Dan doesn't want to go. She feels caught in the middle which is stressful and doesn't need the stress ... she's pregnant.

I understand that he wants to go and he wants to share it with Jen, but he's being selfish. He asked and they said no thank you. It annoys me that he continues to put Jen in this position. She would gladly go with him another time ... just not Memorial weekend. He has no idea what DC is like on a holiday like this. He hasn't been in the area, except for short visits, for over 20 years!

Since I can't do anything about Brad, I attempted to fortify Jen. I sent a pretty harsh email telling her that her dad has always been babied and he's selfish and she needs to not carry on the tradition of catering. I wanted her to be able stand up for what she wants. But I think I overdid it. :-(

I really do think that it would help them have a more honest relationship with her dad and I have to think that's a good thing. But that's not for me to say anymore. She's not 8. She's a grown woman with a 4 year old and another on the way. So I should shut up. But she's still my little girl inside and it kills me to see her getting twisted in a knot. She doesn't deserve it. She's been nothing but a good daughter. But I have to shut up now. All I can do is hope that the visit goes well and she doesn't have to go into DC.